Ladies, I have been introspecting the last few days about our brothas and I'm wondering if you can relate to what I'm feeling. I think with Barack so close to the presidency, it has my mind in a tizzy. Watching Michelle handle herself like a strong black woman has me thinking about the days of ole when the women held it down for their man. Overall, the black family has been on my mind lately, and I'm wondering what it is going to take to get us back on track.
I think about the look I get from a few brothas when I am performing/celebrating them - looks of confusion, distrust - mixed emotions. I don't think they quite know how to feel when they hear a sista lifting them up as opposed to tearing them down because they get torn down so often. Quite a baffling experience for me although I should not be surprised. Sistas, I want to tell them that all of us are not out to get them, that some, if not most of us truly love them for who they are and not what they can do for us or for what they have. That we really do want to be there for them unconditionally and all we really want is for them to offer the same. There is no judgement in my spirit towards those brothas who might question my motives, for truly I understand. However, what it does for me is to help me understand how deeply we have been separated and deeply the pain has penetrated our hearts. But as many of you know, I am the eternal optimist! I will continue to forge ahead to remind my brothas that I/we love them.
I think I was a black man in a past lifetime because I have such a level of compassion for them. I don't claim to know what they go through, yet at the same time I want them to know we have gone through things too. I don't want to compare experiences for that only creates a circle of unresolved pain. We can both make our points without negating the importance of the other person's perspective.
So ladies, let's try to make the best choice for ourselves when it comes to selecting a mate. Yes, we want to be in relationships, but not at any cost. Let's start respecting ourselves and each other...if he has a wife, girl or someone he's "just seeing," then he's off limits. Regardless! In today's technological overload, there are too many ways to find out anything you need to know about anybody, so if your instinct tells you something other than "the words that are coming out his mouth," check it out! If you have suspicions, check it out! But more importantly, trust your instinct...it never leads you wrong. Some people would say if you have to go and check somebody out then you have your answer right there, but I come from a different school of thought. I give everybody the benefit of the doubt, but I am not going to dismiss my instinct for anybody, I don't care who it is or what package they come in. Besides, we do out research on everything else, why not somebody we are thinking about spending our time with? And this goes for the brothas too.
I truly believe when we start respecting ourselves, the brothas will follow suit. Thanks ladies, and remember you are the channel by which God chose to bring life into this world. That in and of itself is a powerful affirmation!
Until next time, take care of yourself and each other!!
Peace & Blessings,
Marina
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